I love your blog. It’s awesome and I hope you can help me. I don’t trust my man! We’ve had trust issues in our relationship not really infidelity just speculation but I can’t help this gut feeling I have! I try to discuss it and he attacks my insecurities or will intimidate me. He lies so much. He’ll tell me he’s with his boys and I’ll see him get in a car with other women. He has one story before he leaves, and then another one when he comes back. My friends say leave. My heart wants to stay. Please help.
Well love, you have to put your big girl panties on and confront him, or walk away without question. Does it matter if you know he’s cheating? Are you going to leave? I’m sure you probably asked him if he was cheating on you, he deflected the attention off him and on to you, victimized himself and made you the villain, left you feeling like shit. Wondering what’s wrong with you? Asking yourself “why am I such an emotional ass girl?” Sound familiar?
If it does, take my advice and RUN. Please. Exit stage left, do not pass go, do not collect $200!!! Your situation is familiar to one I’ve been though and I know exactly how you’re feeling and during that time I talked to a few people I trust and someone sent me a link 10 Signs You’re dating a narcissist, baby that article opened my eyes! I went through everything you went through and more! I didn’t leave right away and that’s where I fucked up, I stayed and subjected myself to his emotional and mental abuse. I questioned everything about me, because it didn’t make sense. I didn’t deserve any of how he treated me but I loved him so I stayed praying he would change. Big mistake because the damage done was irreparable and affects my relationships, now.. I say walk away, he’ll be mad and try to hurt you to bring you down, don’t let him.
If you want to move on you’re going to have to rid yourself of him and his energy because – transference of energy is real watch Two Can Play That Game. It’s my favorite breakup movie. It’ll make you laugh and probably cry but you’ll laugh so much more. But seriously his energy and his demons will continue to try and lash out and control you until you cut the soul ties. If you’re gonna stay you gotta take your feelings out, yet who wants to love heartlessly?
You’ve inspired my next post. But I’ll link you to another young lady’s blog filled with information about energy, protecting you from you and everyone else.
I really hope this helps. I hope you find peace. I’ve been there, it’s a horrible feeling and it’ll get worse until you decide “no”.
*The owner didn’t respond to my request to post her link so it’s been included in senders original email*