Hey girl!! You’re in a group on facebook and I saw your post about your blog so I wanted to reach out. My person has been really distant, sex aint the same, our vibe aint the same. He’s always on his phone from the time he awakes until he goes to bed. I ask him about his day he never goes into details, just that he doesn’t want to talk about it. I’m trying to love him but he won’t let me. It’s been almost a year, my friends say leave but my heart says stay. Help?
I can’t help you *insert crying laughing face here* because this too is something I have not figured out. I don’t think men put in as much emphasis on the emotional need in relationships as we do. We as women we need it, and we give it so much because we need it, but we don’t get it back as often as we give and it can create problems in your realtionship. The best advice I can give you is to communicate with him. Let him know how you feel, why you feel that way and have a few possible suggestions on how to solve this at YOUR level of appeasement. Always remember to keep an open mind and that there are other ways to get things done. However, if its bothering you, you gotta speak up and let him know. He can’t fix what he doesn’t know is broken. Now, sadly, the outcome may not be what you want, but either way the conversation needs to be had, your happiness, sanity and livlihood is dependent on it.
Don’t be afraid of losing him, if he was meant to be there, he’ll be there and if he not, tell his ass BOY, BYE!!!